You are in Survival Mode
This state means that you have hit a barrier in defining a clear vision of your needs, wants and desires in this area, and your growth is actively progressing toward a vision that may have some serious short term limits.
Develop your Safety & Zeal for increased Vision:
Take some time to identify and write down the obstacles, challenges, threats and weaknesses in this area of your life. Write down the things that are working in your favor, especially those you may take for granted, no matter how simple and express your gratitude for them daily. Practice controlling your breathing, sitting up straight, stretching and elongating your body to send confidence hormone to your brain, especially when you feel anxious or stressed.
Seek out calm environments, quiet rooms or spaces to sit in a relaxed state. Practice visualizing yourself overcoming your challenges. Allow your mind to wander and daydream to switch off your conscious thinking and allow your subconscious mind time to express itself. Take long walks and exercise to promote growth of neural pathways in your hippocampus.
Maintain your Method & Tribe for increased Growth:
Take note of the behaviors that have consistently enabled you to make progress so that you can be intentional about maintaining them overtime and applying them to your new visions. Remain open to new methods as you become aware of their benefits and share what works for you with those who are interested.
Identify the relationships which have been supportive in this area of life and make an effort to demonstrate your appreciation by doing something kind for them or kind to others in their honor to pay it forward. Engage these relationships as your vision continues to increase in clarity.
Lack of vision clarity in this area is frequently the result of unmanaged stress, obstacles, threats and anxieties. You can probably easily picture your problems in vivid details, articulate detailed stories of frustrating experiences to others and gain a sense of satisfaction from venting and airing your grievances. You may struggle with being present in the moment because you have difficulty letting go of negative experiences from the past and/or you have serious anxieties about the future. These struggles from the past and anxieties about the future can sometimes get you down and leave you in extended states of sadness, and feeling stressed out or worse.
You may have established some practices to protect yourself and reduce anxiety such as avoiding changes, or anything that disrupts your current routines. You may find yourself oversleeping, staying up late or have difficulty normalizing your sleep patterns. You may occasionally find yourself saying “no”, being short tempered or frustrated with others and feeling a sense of unfairness in how the world operates in general. You likely openly wish things were different but are unsure how to shift gears and feel more empowered.
You also may have some compelling desires and aspirations in this area of life which you suppress because they are low in priority in comparison to the other challenges in your life or seem unachievable. You may avoid talking about the future because you are overly concerned with the day to day things. The extreme focus on getting by and surviving day to day may cause you to question the meaning of life and you may feel a lack of driven purpose in this area of your life. You may be struggling with some feelings of emptiness or feel misunderstood by others.
You are actively growing toward your vision, even if slowly. You may learn fast from mistakes and have become well equipped at changing your path quickly when you spot a particular challenge - this prevents you from wasting a lot of time on something that won’t produce quick results. Otherwise you tend to find a way to reduce the scope to get around most of the roadblocks that may present itself in the path to ensure that you keep the basics covered.
You have likely developed methods (behaviors or habits) to define simple and attainable goals. You occasionally use a daily planner or write things down so you can focus and get things done.
You also take simple and consistent actions to progress those goals and hold yourself accountable. You may have taken additional effort to eliminate several things that take up time in your life but don’t deliver significant rewards.
You may dedicate time on building and maintaining healthy relationships. Relationships may be brain-based where you know what’s important to those around you, and you share common values or goals which enable your relationships to validate you or give you helpful direction and support when you hit obstacles. Others may look to you for inspiration as you tend to reciprocate support to others, or offer aid to others with no expectation of reward. You tend to take personal responsibility for any failure in this area of life and avoid blaming others.